7 Signs your partner is emotionally dumping on you !!!
We’ve often seen or been in situations where a person feeling emotionally vulnerable hurls their state of mind on their partner. Venting is one thing but emotionally dumping is an extreme toxic form of venting.
What does Emotional Dumping mean?
When you have absolutely zero control over your emotional responses and are throwing off that garbage on another person randomly as if they were a dumpster, it is called emotional dumping. Sadly, no one does it deliberately. A feeling of helplessness or vulnerability arises before one starts venting out. They are neither conscious of their own emotional responses nor empathetic to the listener which makes them go on and on.
Example :
Your girlfriend is discussing with you about how her sister’s boyfriend cheated on her and suddenly channels those emotions on you. Because of her underlying insecurity she starts doubting your loyalty as a result of which you two end up in a heated argument.
We’ve often seen or been in situations where a person feeling emotionally vulnerable hurls their state of mind on their partner. Venting is one thing but emotionally dumping is an extreme toxic form of venting.
7 point check-list to see if your partner is emotionally dumping on you.
- Snap Randomly — They snap at you randomly without any reason. Specially if the frequency of this behaviour is higher than before. Its like saying something mean or acting mad while the other person doesn’t even know their fault.
- Attention-seekers — They are hungry for your attention hence they will do anything to have it. A popular phrase they use in this situation is ‘I need to feel loved!’
- Priority Hit list — They want to be at the top of your priority list. They demand a lot of your time, failing to sympathise with your busy schedule. They cannot weigh down the urgency of a situation. If they feel the need to vent you should be at their disposal whatsoever.
- Flip — They are full of love one moment showering affection on you and the other moment they flip and start complaining about the relationship as if its the most terrible thing that happened to them.
- Break-up — Path-up — They keep breaking-up at every argument when the truth is they don’t really have the heart to end it. Even if you finally did agree with them to end it, they will fight with you for not giving up on them.
- Extremist — Their emotions get hiked easily. For example — crying too often and too much or yelling at the other person.
- Blame-Game — They keep blaming you for everything that has gone wrong in their lives. Even if its not your fault, they will directly or indirectly point a finger at you for their mess-ups. Example — I got late for this meeting because I was talking to you.
It’s always good to be available for your partner and help them get through their though times but this does not imply they can emotionally dump on you whenever the need be. Soon, it will start taking a toll on your emotional health. So, it’s best to draw that line before things get worse.
